A lot of people have commented on blogs or facebook posts that they cannot train for one reason or another. They follow the blog because they did train at one time or another and stay on the blog believing they may return. Maybe reading about JiuJitsu keeps them in the sport (for example I don’t wrestle anymore but I follow it and like to be close to the community).
I’ve seen a few people stop Jiu Jitsu for years and become depressed and then eventually one day they are back. It’s actually surprising how low I have seen people only to see them rise and go back to the mat. It really shows their dedication.
But for those who do come back more sadly do not.
Sometimes a person gets a severe neck injury, your doctor advises against it for your health and it may be realistic that your life or livelihood could be in jeopardy. You may have to support a family, work certain odd hours, a lot of factors. Can’t afford it, mental health issues, etc.
It’s tough to say, it’s all individual. I mean, how can you blame a person who has a severe injury or personal issues? If you can’t train when 90 are you a quitter?
The sad part about quitting or stopping Jiu Jitsu is that you often lose touch with the community when you stop, especially if you have invested time. It’s not to say the people whom you left are not still your friends but sometimes people only have that mat time as their free time to socialize and have the mat as their haven for friendships
Having said that it was “Gordo” who hurt his leg and really developed a great half guard game because of it. In boxing Vinny Pazienza broke his neck and his doctor said he could never box. He said he would and did. They were willing to risk it all. Does it mean that if you don’t come back you are any less?
No. Of course not.
Things happen, we overcome the odds in many ways, often off the mat also.
Maybe you quit because you don’t fit in at your school or just had a bad experience. Be aware many schools will take new people in and treat them differently.
The bottom line is if you want to do it there is always a way to get back into it, even from the sidelines (referee, coach, fan, etc.).
And if you don’t then maybe it’s okay to take a break. Jiu Jitsu will be here when you come back.
I’m not sure if this article solved any problems (more like discussed) but if you stopped Jiu Jitsu and still love it, you can still be part of the community.
Comment your thoughts and perspective below.